The right to use anger

Often we hear the anger is called negative emotions. As a creator, made a mistake in the original design of mankind a mistake that is typical for people. Maybe it's just plain spoons when adding ingredients or accidental reactiveness between benign components (such as barbiturates and alcohol).

Before we blame the wrath of the cosmos, it may be useful to take a step back and look at what we label anger. first wrath has very different tastes.

First, we all went through was angry about is not an infant care of properly. We would fuss and then cry, but when all else fails, turn into saturated rage, complete with thrashing of legs and flushed cheeks.Nothing inherently less on demand at the top of our lungs for someone to pay attention to our needs. After all our survival depends. And, the anger quickly stop when someone has responded to our needs.

Later came the anger that we got to where we started, the decision to divide and become independent. He had two faces resistance and challenge.When we put the word, we will have some form of no!, and we were almost unlimited energy bring to the task of making the person we were most attached to usually MOM very uncomfortable, she'd let go at the end of our mutual affection. Development of this kind of anger has its purpose and is an indispensable tool for need, no matter how unpleasant thoughts of our parents, we were back then. After separation, our anger people push away eventually dissipated.

Third flavor came along, when we need to learn how to get what we want from others and keep them from taking from us that we don't want to give. Often includes anger. attempts to interfere in our space, where we or violate our faces often require some anger for reflection.Value less popular Utility comes as a way to manipulate or control others in our quest for them to do what we want to "do" it would be difficult to define, angry as control unit is socially negative attributes because they rarely generate goodwill manipulation. But the key to being healthy anger usually contains sufficient to repel intruders.

When we are too quick to refer to all forms of anger as negative, and therefore we miss the point has been an increase in the vital element of our personality make-up requires access and skills with the help of the form of anger that are better suited to the task at hand. Regardless of what culture, race or gender, bans on the outward manifestations of the child the flavor wrath represent attempts to redesign a fundamentally sound design for the production of healthy people.

Usually we find the women in our society who cry when feelings of anger, because such prohibitions against the powerful universal recognition. And men are angry feelings of hostility, instead of "weak" fear or sadness ... even when we disagree that anger is negative, we often say someone with legitimate anger "do not be angry." don't think. Get even.Just be happy. Be positive nothing to express anger in various forms.

What is of the wrong idea about anger are some very negative manifestations. Repository of unresolved anger explode into destructive fury at the slightest provocation, even when we try to be calm, rational and positive in our attitude towards life. And common issues such as lower back pain and anger, dammed reservoirs, bans on there our loved ones and common form of depression has traditionally been attributed to anger turned inwards.We are fair game when they cannot protect you from unwanted intruders, because we get stripped the necessary forces that may have been angry.

As adults we often intuitively know what types of conduct traditionally labeled passive aggression were not acceptable when we see adults involved. we can watch manipulative qualities when someone makes us to carry out his wishes, being angry at us until we do it. And when the full-grown man was furious, we believe in violence, whether it is acted out. Negativity unresolved anger comes from its main irrelevance.What is safe for young children to express becomes unhealthy and even dangerous, when we are adults.

A healthy understanding anger begins with the correct measurement of each flavor and what he is going to perform. Rage because we have outstanding needs have not worked successfully in a love relationship with peers.It must be considered in the kind of professional structure designed to safely deal with it.Medicines, Office tactics and other forms of diversion or prohibition does not perform better than they did when our parents tried to stop us from having needs, they have not been able to meet for the first time around.

When anger shows in intimate relationships that pushes from loved ones, we can argue legal, devastating.But until we free attachments and you can say "no" on what we don't want to happen real intimacy. struggle for independence from the repulsion of our closest interests of love does not make sense when we do a lot more like adults, because the quality of thinking involved remains a primitive for two summer. If we try to understand what is largely devoid of rationality, we just get more confused.But there is no shortage of complex theoretical models in almost every culture explain (confused) about this form of anger.Even with the attribution of gender differences in different planets in origin.

Healthy adults not to go with the unaddressed pockets anger borne whenever we get the slightest NICK. we do not look at other need to implement because we have full responsibility for themselves and from genuine autonomy, we say no, if necessary, even non-violent anger for delineating. faced with a difficult task, we have access to energy from anger to get up and get into someone's face, until it gets resolved issues-and the main thing that nobody else can even know what we were outraged! another important feature of healthy anger comes with experience that gets around this problem, anger immediately dissipates. we can resist even our closest friends and allies on the important issues are still fully rational and still be close when it's all over and done with.

I don't know about you, but the correct use of angry looks as an important component of a healthy way, we can live with.

Gary Robertson is a Pastoral counselor and author of the original time SETTLEMENT OF ego and offers free audio excerpts from his book on a happier more fulfilling life; you can go on your site for a report, a free gift for you or anybody can achieve to life as an adult, we always dreamed of as children at http://genuinebeing.com/lp.html.

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