October 06, 2010

Moderation of angry response through education


You probably can't get into baseball, as well as Albert Pujols. Why? Of course major league players were born with a certain level of physical advantage over the rest of us, but most of their skill comes from training-training diligently, year after year. Imagine, baseball, coming to you at 100 miles per hour is less than half a second of the pitcher's hand to the catcher Mitt. Decide whether to swing. Then decide how to swing. Then actually swing a bat. All in less than half a second. Albert thinks about swinging a bat? I doubt it. The rapid response must be a subconscious. Instincts are what we are born, right? In this case, no. Instinctive reactions, Albert will now have to approach rapidly moving baseball is the result of years of schooling.

Most people think that anger instinctive response, and that some people are just born with temperament get angrier faster than others. This statement is half-right. Anger is instinctive response. We react with anger an insult at the same time as pitched baseball batter reaches almost instantly-much too fast for conscious thought to call. But the instinct angry reactions can be trained in the same manner as the batter to answer through conscious repetition, visualization and coaching.Visualization is witnessing the event, we are striving to master in our imagination; we see an approximation of baseball or antagonistic action as if it were real and then mentally practice our response.

During his apprenticeship, baseball player strives to make each swing better than the last. Repeat the failed swing will be worse than useless. It will be the original bad habits.The same is true of emotional responses.We still have the same angry replies, we just build our habits of anger, but if we want through consciousness, visualization and coaching-moderate our anger response over time, we can educate themselves react to events as we choose, without anger. you may not be magically free from the wrath of tomorrow, but you can put yourself on a training program that will reduce the frequency and intensity of your anger response, day after day, year after year.

Those are my tips for moderator angry reply:

1. Deliberate Practice, which has a little less anger whenever the situation leads to you.

2. practice visualization aggravating circumstances and rehearse response, you decide to make to such events.

3. be patient.It took you years to get so angry. It may take years to reduce anger until a small twinge.

4. understand that you can never completely eliminate an angry reply. Minimizing anger requires continuous deliberate practice.

Previous tricks is for those who fast anger, and who show their anger. but what about people who don't appear in anger? Some people who do not show anger are preparing themselves to moderate their anger, but many other internalize their anger, rather than to express his while deducted anger can keep family and friends to withstand burst, unexpressed anger, even greater harm to its owner than anger, verbalized and take appropriate action.

For those who suffer from repressed anger must be a stopover on the way from the wrath of free House.You must be expressed anger, although I believe that most people can significantly reduce the frequency and intensity of their angry responses above preparations, the overcoming of repressed anger does not usually offer do-it-yourself.Professional advice-including physical expressions of anger in a controlled environment, you can detect and cure of childhood trauma, which led to a lifelong habit of suppression of intense anger and hostility. once a person has the opportunity to express their anger, it becomes necessary to immediately start moderating this answer not anger, repressed or outward.

The view that there are advantages of anger has become common but I believe the statements such as "anger is directed And controlled, it can be a catalyst for many positive changes" is a distorted picture to the angry response.The argument goes that if we don't get mad, we will be pushovers, but that we can have values and stand up to these values only by angry's faulty.

Purpose of anger that I totally agree, "Anger is now known to be sufficient to cause us physically and psychologically." we don't need anger will be assertive more than we should drink hard to stand up for our beliefs.As an example, if someone does not repay the loan for me, I can be assertive, seeking payment of, or I may bring legal actions to take money, at least, and if I'm not angry.And more importantly, I'll be much healthier both physically and emotionally.

Anger is a destructive emotions is instinctive, over the years through conscious learning, an angry response – whether in the form of an outbreak or suppressed-can be moderated over time, as long as it is practically excluded.








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