When anger get the best of us

How do you express your anger? I once had a woman in one of my seminars, who said: "I'll never get angry." Can you imagine? How to go through life and never feel anger? Anger is part of the passion of life. There's nothing wrong with anger. What's going on is when we express our anger on someone else. What's going on is when we are angry feelings to themselves or others. What's going on is when we send our anger in the wrong place. So what can we do when we believe that nasty heat rise inside us? You are minding your own business without interfering with anyone and suddenly something happens and your body tenses, the heat rises inside you, your heart throbs and out of your mouth happens ... what?

The two most common answers to anger, explosion or repression.

Some people simply explode. All anger erupts from the lava of the volcano. Those who stood so feel, and sometimes never recover from Flash. People that are issued as usually find themselves in the wrong place.They may lose their jobs may be obtained from the bad. They suffer through the restoration of a long and painful because they often hurt and destroy.

Second response to anger is repression. Some people make all these feelings and push them deep inside yourself. Fearing an explosion, they prefer to hide their feelings into a deep, dark corner. These people are no less dangerous to themselves and others.There are so many places for our anger inside us if we keep tucking the anger away, one day we will run out of room. On this day we could respond by making their anger over violent manner, or by turning their anger on someone else. I once heard a depression is defined as "anger inside."

There is a third response to anger? At work we cannot explode every time we feel angry. At work we cannot suppress all our senses.Churchill said, "speak into anger, and you will deliver the greatest speech, you'll never live to regret!" are you explosive person or persons that suppress your anger, you can learn to cope with anger more productive manner.Before I give you a few tips, let me suggest that a woman in my class who said she had never experienced anger can be more dangerous than any of us who confess our anger. why It is in denial. All of us, even the most balanced among us feel anger.Question: what do we do with it so that it does not get the best of us?

Here are some tips:

Recognize the symptoms of anger: learn what happens to you when you feel angry. Once you recognize the symptoms, you will be easier to control his anger.

Recognize your anger. To say that. You can say "I'm really angry," or "it makes me so mad."Once you actually vocalize your anger, you've released.

Be aware of her feelings.Don't ignore the boiling inside or throbbing in your head.

Don't blame others for your anger to recognize that anger is owned by you. Others don't make us angry.Anger is the answer to someone's behavior.This behavior we hate or makes us feel anger, not people.

Find an interesting way to release their anger. Some of my clients have ugly dolls they beat.Just knocking something on the table as hard as you can will help you release their anger.

Give your time to dissipate anger before you find others.A time-out.

Take some deep breaths slowly. close your eyes and imagine a place you like.Hold this vision. don't let the anger to creep back into your mind.

Find a trustee to which you can vent.

Write a letter to the pen-poison. but not send.This is completely normal Abraham Lincoln during the civil war, he would pen letters to his incompetent generals.Later, he would destroy these letters.By writing a letter, he not only ventilated, he began to see more productive way to deal with conduct that causes it to be angry.

When you calmed myself and his anger to leak out of you in this way, where no one gets hurt, do something about that led you to become so angry, especially if the situation may be repeated. take action.

Detach themselves from the communication using Say it's just the right model, the model will allow you to maintain attention without being absorbed by your feelings.

Remember that anger is a natural reaction to life sometimes little things angry response. don't let anger get the best of you allow yourself to get the better of anger.

Joan Curtis, EdD is the Director of coaching as a whole, where she specializes in helping smart, capable professionals advance their careers by becoming skilled communicators and savvy leaders.

Her new book, managing the sticky situations at work: the secrets of success in the workplace gives you everything you need to know to say it is just right! to learn more, go to: http://www.managingstickysituationsatwork.com/

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